Etiquettes (to be observed) in the gatherings of the people

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Etiquettes (to be observed) in the gatherings of the people

And when you sit with the people and congregate with them, then make humility the sign by which you are recognized (i.e. a characteristic of yours), and let Fear of Allaah be your cover (i.e. that which protects from sins), and giving advice to the servants of Allaah as your abiding way.

Be eager to (make) every gathering in which you sit with the (people) to be that which comprises goodness. Either research into affairs of knowledge; or advice on religious matters; or direction towards a general or particular Maslahah (benefit); or making mention of the blessings of Allaah; or making mention of the superior status of praiseworthy manners, and good etiquettes; or warning against that which is detrimental to the wellbeing of one’s religious or worldly (affairs). And the least of that is that they seek the gains from their occupations by way of the permissible (means) and not the forbidden (means).

And that you behave well with the young, the old, and your peers. And that you deal with each of them in a way they deserve, and to have respect for the one that deserves to be respected and honoured.

Be eager to make your sitting (with the people) at ease by way of (uttering) speech that is appropriate and good, even if that was in relation to the worldly (affairs). That is because when (permissible speech) and (permissible gathering) becomes fruitful/turns out well, sitting together becomes easy, conversation is made easy, the heart feels tranquillity, and all of that returns to praiseworthiness/is attributed to praiseworthiness.

The sensible resolute one/the steadfast one achieves abundant goodness by way of the gatherings of the people, and he becomes more beloved to them than all (beloved things). This is because he enters upon them with (matters) which they approve of, and sayings which they desire. And the foundation in all that is success in taking over control of all the affairs placed before them.

And these affairs become more emphasized in a journey (i.e. when people accompany one another on a journey). This is because during a journey sitting together is prolonged, and the travellers are in need of having someone who revives their hearts with good statements, the news of events, and joke, (if all this is truth and not too much), and to assist them with the essential matters of travel.

Good etiquettes makes (the one who possess it) more pleasurable to the people than the pleasure derived from a cold drink, and its weight/influence bears heavier upon their souls than hard stones.

He (Subhaanah) is the one who caused the dissimilarities between His slaves with regards to their manners, actions, and in all of their affairs.

And Allaah (Alone) is the One Who grants success.

Source: Noorul Basaair Wal al-baab fee ahkaam al ‘Ibaadaat Wal Mu‘aamalaat Wal Huqooq Wal aadaab. Of Imaam ‘Abdur Rahmaan As Sa’dee (rahimahullaah) Page 64-65

May Allaah reward our brother Abu Talhah (Dawood Burbank) who checked the translation, and our brother Abu Hafs (Abdur Raqeeb) who assisted in translating the article.

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